2020 was quite the year. With record-breaking numbers and more views than ever before, we would like to say thanks to all of our readers and contributors. We decided to write up a list of our top 10 most popular articles which feature a wide range of topics about divorce.
From issues about visitation and co-parenting during COVID-19, to being an adult child of divorce, our top 10 list offers insight into every part of the divorce process. Take a look and comment on your favorite ones!
Here are DivorceMag’s Top 10 Articles of 2020
10. Proof of Adultery: From the Bedroom to the Courtroom
“So you suspect that your spouse has betrayed you and broken your marriage vows. But how do you confirm your suspicions and prove adultery? And, if you’ve decided that it’s time for a divorce, how do you provide proof of adultery in a way that will stand up in divorce court?
The answer may surprise you, because while there may be enough to convince you that your spouse is a cheater, many forms of “proof” aren’t strong enough to hold up in court.
Infidelity is common in the United States. Statistically, one or both partners have admitted to having an affair in more than one-third of all marriages. A study published in 2011 in the Archives of Sexual Behavior confirmed that one in five of the 1,000 people in heterosexual couples they interviewed had cheated on their spouses. Another study in May 2015 confirmed this one-in-five number when the polling company YouGov surveyed 1,000 Americans and found that 21 percent of men and 19 percent of women admitted that they had cheated on their partners.”
9. 7 Tips for Creating a Divorce Settlement Agreement
“Divorce is never an easy process to get through, typically filled with emotion, stress and heartbreak. However, with 40% to 50% of marriages ending in divorce each year, it’s safe to say that this isn’t as uncommon as you might think, and you’re not alone. Part of the process however, is creating a divorce settlement agreement, sometimes referred to as a marital settlement agreement or a divorce agreement.
A divorce settlement agreement is a legally-binding document* in which you and your spouse agree on the terms of your divorce and can cover a full range of topics, including child support, spousal support, division of property, custody and visitation rights, and any other issues that are relevant to your situation.”
8. 3 Reasons Why We Stay in Unhappy Marriages
“It seems like there are two different types of divorces:
1. Those that last decades, fighting tooth and nail over every spoon, chair, and penny, and
2. Those that seem to simply dissolve quietly before our eyes, as if it had all only been an illusion in the first place.
The first type may end up in the media – depending on how extreme the fighting gets, or how much money is at stake –and second type leads us to believe that divorce is simple and routine – like laundry or grocery shopping. No matter how easy someone may make it look, the pain, disappointment, and sense of failure are the same for everyone.”
7. Avoiding Divorce? 5 Signs You Need to Let Go of a Bad Marriage
“If you’ve been happily married for a few years, it’s a common thing for the passion to fade away. Maybe you made a huge mistake or your partner did something that can’t be forgiven. So you both started considering divorce as an option and a way to let go of a bad marriage.
It’s a scary thing especially when you start the preparation phase. Calling attorneys, making copies of financial documents, fear of being single again and feeling lonelier than ever, are just a few of the things you’ll go through if you put an end to your marriage.
However, there’s another possible scenario. Couples that have been trying to stay strong in the face of all the signs that divorce is near without any success. Eventually, divorce seems to be the only solution to their marriage problems.”
6. Visitation Refusal By Divorced Parents During COVID-19
“The COVID-19 Crisis is definitely creating the impetus for many custody disputes. I’ve seen a surge in the number of people who are contacting me because the other parent is refusing to allow the children to travel to the other parent for court-ordered parenting time or visitation. Visitation refusal is happening even with parents who live only two blocks apart.
The justification for the refusing parent is the Governor’s “Stay at Home” Order.
The parent who has the children states that the governor’s order takes precedence over the court orders in the case. The general consensus among family law practitioners seems to be that these refusals are wrongful, the court’s orders regarding child custody and parenting time should be followed in most cases.”
5. 12 Things You Should Know about Failing to Pay Child Support in Texas
“Little known fact: August is National Child Support Awareness Month. It’s a time of year when child support agencies and advocates across the country participate in education and awareness programs about child support – and the consequences of failing to pay it. To mark the occasion, we are getting down to basics and highlighting things parents absolutely should know about failing to pay child support in Texas
Texas does not tolerate child support evaders. Parents who fail or refuse to pay child support can go to jail for up to two years and pay thousands of dollar in fines – on top of the child support they owe.
There are basically two avenues for which you can be sent to jail for failing to pay child support.”
4. 5 Things You May Face as an Adult Child of Divorce
“Most of the friends I had growing up were children of divorce. Some had single mothers, others had stepparents, and others were shuttled back and forth between their parents’ houses throughout the month. My parents, however, were happily married — hell, they never even fought. I considered myself to be one of the lucky ones.
They divorced after 30 years of marriage.
At age 28, I found myself strangely unequipped to handle my parents splitting up. I thought that being an adult would make it easier, but instead, I was left feeling completely disoriented. I tried turning to my friends, but my situation was so unlike theirs that they could only empathize — advice was off the table.”
3. 3 Myths Regarding Divorce and Health Insurance
“It is common in many marriages for one spouse to maintain the medical insurance for the entire family. In many instances, one spouse just has cheaper or higher quality coverage. But what about the matter of divorce and health insurance?
In some situations, there is a spouse that does not work or has employment that does not provide health insurance benefits. No matter the reason, the matter of health insurance must be dealt with as a part of any divorce.
Many people across the United States are covered by employer coverage or their spouse’s group plan. For many employer plans, health insurance is provided to eligible dependents of the subscriber. The health insurance company will establish who meets the definition of an eligible dependent.”
2. How to Disarm a Narcissist (and Make Them a Bit More Tolerable)
“There is no doubt that each of us has a narcissist in our life; that person that just can’t seem to see past the end of their nose. While many of us are able to experience the world around us and find a way to deal with the ups and downs handed out, narcissists tend to keep their surroundings very well controlled. Whatever they can’t control they blame others for.
Even if you have a good argument and viable solution the narcissist will use his repertoire of ammo to put you down and make you the person at fault. It might be easy to think that we can just dropkick that person and move on with life but sometimes it is far easier said than done.”
1. Your Parting Words: How to Break the News about Divorce Responsibly
“Telling your mate you want a separation or divorce is a moment of truth, and every individual I interviewed remembers precise details about this instant. In my case, we were vacationing in Lake Tahoe when I told my husband.
We sat looking at the clear blue water, at our kayak tied to the dock, and ducks bobbing on the surface. And then I broke the stillness by saying, “I think we should separate for a while and see what happens. I need space to find out who I am and what I want. I need to leave when we get back home.” I said a few other things, to make it sound less final, less threatening, and less hurtful. As I spoke, I felt strong and exhilarated to finally break the news to my husband. I felt terrified as well.”