Reflect on your patterns of behavior and thought, including your history of these patterns, as a way to evaluate the root causes of any negative cycles that have formed.
Coping with Divorce
Your world has been shattered and your self-confidence is in pieces. Divorce destroys so much within us, but there is a way through it all.
One “benefit” about being a young divorcee is the time you still have. You haven’t given 20+ years of your life to someone who makes you unhappy. You can learn a lot about yourself and what you truly want.
The experience of grief is as unpredictable as it is universal. Let yourself explore the many rituals grievers can practice and create a meaningful closure that’s just right for you.
The longer you live together, the more you expose your implicit bias – which could turn minor annoyances from the beginning of your relationship into deal-breakers.
This may well be the rockiest time of your life. You will be under a microscope for your children, your spouse, the legal profession, and, if you are rich and famous, the whole world. But before you know it, the worst will be over.
If you are stuck in the rejection phase after divorce, it means that your painful feelings and emotions are knocking at your inner door but you’re not yet ready to let them in.
Divorce is almost always difficult, but you don’t need to stay in a place or continue patterns that make you feel depressed or prevent you from moving forward with your life.
The lesson I have learned from my eight-year ordeal is that there is no need for revenge. Sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up, and if you’re lucky, God will let you watch.
Everything will get better, even the way you are feeling now. It’s important that you allow yourself to process every thought and hurt feeling that you have.