We may not want to do better than we feel or be better than we feel, but to have a healthy coparent relationship, we may be required to act like we do.
Coping with Divorce
Rebuilding your life after divorce can seem impossible. After a relationship, you have put time and emotion into ends, it can feel like your life is over, and you may wonder what to do and where to turn.
When you ask the tough questions, create the right action steps, and achieve the goals, it becomes easier to move on after divorce.
Amid the divorce horror stories that plaster grocery store tabloids and plague online news feeds with gritty details, a few glimmers of hope shine through: tales of healthy divorce where individuals make the careful choice to end their marriage gracefully and not spend years battling in court and ruining their lives.
Divorce inevitably leaves individuals to sift through a barrel of complicated emotions. It is not uncommon to feel overwhelmed, stressed, lonely, angry, or even guilty when processing a divorce. Left in isolation, these emotions can be confusing and misdirected if they go unaddressed during this transition.
Shame and guilt not only make us feel terrible, but also make us feel responsible, even if we’re not.
Newly single life, unfortunately, gets a bad rap. While working through some of the tougher emotions, keep your eyes on these perks that are nearly exclusive to singlehood.
Reflect on your patterns of behavior and thought, including your history of these patterns, as a way to evaluate the root causes of any negative cycles that have formed.
Your world has been shattered and your self-confidence is in pieces. Divorce destroys so much within us, but there is a way through it all.
One “benefit” about being a young divorcee is the time you still have. You haven’t given 20+ years of your life to someone who makes you unhappy. You can learn a lot about yourself and what you truly want.