After your divorce you may be feeling a multitude of emotions. Divorce is a huge life change and the changes it brings about will take some getting used to.
Even though divorce impacts more lives than just your own, it’s important to focus on things you can do for yourself, especially when all is said and done. This is a time to reset and find your new balance. It’s also the perfect time to try new things that fulfill and free you. Here are four new things to consider after your divorce.
4 Things to Try After Your Divorce
1. Buy New Bedding
Your bed is where you go to rest, heal, and recuperate. It’s also a very personal space and one that can hold a lot of memories. And when there’s a divorce in the picture, starting over with a new bed is an excellent way to start fresh.
Take the time to choose a beautiful bed frame, comfortable mattress, and luxurious sheets. Make it a haven, one that you can’t wait to crawl in to at the end of the day. Don’t forget to focus on your nightly routine as well, treating yourself to a soothing herbal tea, CBD gummies, or an aromatherapy bath or shower.
2. Do Something That Makes You Feel Good
Going through a divorce is rough in more ways than one. Unfortunately, it might also be a period when taking care of yourself isn’t as much of a priority. If this sounds familiar, it’s time to bring self-care back into your life. Make an appointment to get your hair done or head to the derma spa for a treatment or two. Try building yoga into your daily routine or leaving reminders around the house to keep yourself on track. Calling up a friend, signing up for a pottery class, training for a 5k, or starting a weekly book club are all good ways to expand your social circle, helping you connect with others in similar situations as well. If you have children, remember that they must see you taking good care of yourself. This shows the importance of self-respect. And by taking care of yourself, chances are you’ll be in a better place to give them the extra love and care they’ll need at this vulnerable time.
3. Take a Hobby to the Next Level
Is there something you love to do? After your divorce, it may be a good time to throw yourself into your hobbies or and discover new ones. Not only are they a healthy outlet, but they’re also the perfect way to tap into your true talents. Once you’ve established a hobby, commit to it. Devote your time to it and turn it into something more. It might be that you’ve always loved to crochet, so you decide to open an online shop to sell your signature infinity scarves. Or maybe you’ve recently gotten into non-toxic beauty products, so you explore the world of soap making and give bars as gifts over the holidays. This could also be something as simple as embracing your love for food and cooking by preparing more meals at home. Try dialing it in a bit more by learning something new, such as the art of sourdough or exploring different cuisines. This is a great way to involve your kids while establishing healthier habits as well.
4. Work on Communication and Forgiveness
One thing that’s at the root of all relationships is the ability to communicate. And after your divorce, chances are you’re feeling fatigued. Maybe all you want to do is curl up, shut the world out, and be alone for a while. While this is okay to a point, don’t allow it to become your new normal. Remember that effective communication is essential not only for healthy relationships of all kinds but also for your overall well-being. In addition to communication, practicing forgiveness is a huge part of the process of healing and moving forward. Forgiving doesn’t mean you have to accept what someone may have done to you as acceptable. What it does mean is that you come to terms with the reality of the situation, accept it, and make a promise to yourself to close that chapter and forge ahead. It’s also important that you forgive yourself. It’s common to second guess decisions or look back with regret. Don’t allow this to become part of your future. Communication and forgiveness aren’t things you’ll master all at once. Be patient with yourself, stay consistent, and take note of the progress you make.
Life after divorce is an opportunity for you to reignite parts of yourself that may have become lost in the past or discover new parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed. While it is generally a difficult and emotional time, it doesn’t have to take over your life. Making space for the good is essential, and you’ll be grateful that you did.