The divorce process can be a grueling and difficult time whether you are the one initiating the divorce or not. In addition to the legal aspect of divorce, there is also the emotional aspect which sometimes takes a backseat to the legal process.
This is why it is crucial to enforce different divorce coping strategies to overcome the emotional turmoil.
Divorce coping strategies can help you overcome your loss.
You are likely to feel a great sense of loss, failure, guilt, and sorrow during your divorce. These feelings are all perfectly normal and will get better with time. There are certain divorce coping strategies that can help you during this time. Here are 7 of them.
1. Seek External Help
First, you should consider seeking out external help in the form of therapists and counselors. Reaching out to third party experts can help ease the emotional impact of the divorce process. You should ask for recommendations and do research on counselors and therapists depending on your particular needs.
2. Give Yourself Time
Allow yourself time and space to make decisions about the divorce process. You should not feel pressured into making any decisions – especially when you are feeling low. Refrain from posting anything on social media about the divorce, as this could make the situation worse and invite unwanted opinions. It could also encourage hostile relations with your ex. It may be helpful to look up practical tips online to help you through the process.
3. Be Realistic
Try to be realistic about the situation. Having unrealistic goals at the beginning of the process is likely to lead to disappointment and unhappiness, which will make coping with the divorce much more difficult.
4. Practice Gratitude
It will be easy to let negativity consume you during this difficult time, so practice gratitude every day. If you think of just a few things every day that you are grateful for, your entire perspective will change, and you will immediately feel more positive.
5. Surround Yourself With Loved Ones
Surround yourself with positive people who have your best interests at heart. This can include family members and friends, but don’t be scared to also spend time alone. Sometimes removing yourself from other people can give you time to process and reflect on the divorce process.
6. Practice Self-Care
Take time to rest, exercise, and meditate. Self-care is crucial during this time. Make sure you get enough sleep and eat nourishing, nutritious foods when you can. You will find it easier to make decisions about the divorce process if you are well-rested and healthy. Spend time in nature and get out into the fresh air. This will improve your mood and give you time to think about and process what you are going through. Go out in the sun for about 20 minutes a day when it’s sunny. This will improve your mood and can even help prevent depression. Try to walk for at least 30 minutes a day or try walking barefoot on a grassy area. This can be very healing and exhilarating.
7. Practice Forgiveness
Don’t take it personally if your ex is being negative towards you. Tit for tat should be avoided at all costs as it makes for reaching an amicable settlement more difficult. Try to practice forgiveness where possible. This will make you feel more peaceful and calm about the situation. If you feel as though you want to communicate directly with your ex about the divorce process to see if you can achieve a positive solution, then you should do so. A lot can be achieved by sitting down and talking to your ex about how you are feeling.
Try to take these divorce coping strategies into consideration as you go through this difficult process, and always remember to stay strong. Life does go on, and you will get through this.
Louisa Gothard is a Senior Family Law Solicitor. She has experience in all aspects of family law including divorce, matrimonial finance, cohabitation, children matters, and domestic abuse cases. www.stirlingackroydlegal.com