Parents need to understand that the primary goal for child custody plans is for the child to share time with both parents whenever possible as a way to continue healthy parent-child bonding, and for both parents to continue taking part in raising their child. This is why we now refer to the concept of a child living in two homes and spending time with each parent separately as co-parenting.
Acting as co-parents means setting aside hostile feelings you may have toward one another and putting your child’s best interests first. Co-parents communicate needed information and collaborate to troubleshoot minor custody issues in the hopes of fostering a calm and stable lifestyle for their child. Practical steps to start acting more like co-parents include refraining from arguing in front of your children or badmouthing each other, showing up on time for parenting pickup and drop-off times, and communicating politely when discussing your kids.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Law Group in New Jersey. She is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.