The teams are set and the NFL Superbowl is on Sunday! Are you wondering why your husband doesn’t spend as much time working on your relationship as he does watching his favorite football team? January has been referred to as “the divorce month” for a few reasons; one may be the realization that he will never love you the way you need to be loved or as much as he loves football! Seriously ladies, if Superbowl Sunday has your thoughts turning to the possibility of divorce, don’t try to do it alone! Put together your own winning “divorce team”! Here are some of the professionals that you should add to your roster.
Build a Winning Divorce Team
1. Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)
As a CDFA, I work with individuals by helping them to understand and organize their assets so that they will have clarity when making financial decisions that will affect their future. I help them before, during, and after divorce by taking the emotions out of the decisions that need to be made.
2. Financial Advisor
A CDFA or divorce financial professional can help you pull together all of your financial information and a financial advisor will help you make some investment choices for your settlement after your divorce is final.
3. Accountant or Tax Preparer
It is important to have copies of your last three years’ tax returns and any business tax returns. If you have not been active with your accountant or if you do not have one, you can request copies from your local IRS office.
4. Lawyer or Mediator
If you are not sure you are ready for divorce, or don’t know who to choose, talk to a CDFA first. They will be a great addition to your divorce team. Many of my clients have told me that working with me before seeing a lawyer has saved them a lot of money. CDFAs also work alongside lawyers and mediators so they are able to share your information and be involved throughout the whole process.
I am a firm believer that women need women and we all need at least one good girlfriend – but sometimes we need a neutral party to give us a clear perspective. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed to find a good therapist.
OK, so it may seem odd that I’m suggesting this but I truly believe we need to give ourselves attention during times of stress – and more often than not that is the first thing overlooked. If this list were for me, I would also add a manicure and pedicure!
So ladies, pick your favorite color, wear it to a Superbowl party or at home and get ready to start rooting for your own team!! Once you empower yourself, your divorce team is sure to win – not just this year but every year!!! I’m cheering for you!!