Many people who are on the other side of divorce have a Life Map in place for who they want to become and where they want to go.
They are able to navigate out of the past and rebuild a life they would love living. Specifically, they have learned the power of writing out their goals — their Life Map — for the future. After creating their Life Map, they take continuous action under, over, around, and through any obstacle that stands in their way.
Forty-two percent more goals are achieved by writing them down. It helps to get clear on what you want to accomplish and creates motivation for achievement.
How to Create a Life Map After Divorce
First, start by writing your goals down.
Written goals are the key to freedom. They help you stay inspired and motivated, clear, focused, sharp, and always moving forward. When you write down your goals, it increases ability to live your best life and achieve it in a shorter period of time.
Here’s the key that will unlock the door to recover, heal, and rebuild your life after divorce.
After divorce, it is important to map out how you want to create your life going forward. At the same time, it’s essential to create a vision in your mind of the life you want to live. You want to become that vision.
A goal is like a road map. It is specific and concise so that you know how to get to where you want to be. It is your Life Map. It’s the first step to creating a new life you would love living.
Following directions sometimes means navigating in unfamiliar or uncomfortable territory, but eventually, you figure out how to get back on track and continue moving forward. It’s the same with a goal. There will be obstacles, but you will figure out how to move past them. You will have to ask yourself some tough questions.
The action steps you take to achieve your goals are the same as written directions. All you have to do is follow one direction at a time. Take one small step at a time to get closer to your goal.
How Do You Start Your Life Map Statement?
Your Life Plan Statement must be detailed, specific, and dated.
Writing out your Life Map Statement specifically and in detail makes it easy to track and measure progress. If it isn’t dated, it isn’t a goal. Dating the goal adds a little psychological pressure or discomfort, thereby increasing forward-moving action.
As author Diana Hunt simply wrote, “Goals are dreams with deadlines.”
Here’s An Example Of Marcie’s Life Plan
Marcie was “stuck” in the resentment phase of the divorce recovery cycle.
There are three parts to a well-written goal. It includes a goal statement, obstacle(s), and action steps.
My goal is to move out of playing the victim by discovering ways to change my behavior and attitude so that I can begin to work on creating my new Life Map by (date).
Understanding my choice, role, and responsibility for choosing to stay in victim mode, and learning necessary skills and tools to release myself from it.
- Do research and list reasons as to why one chooses to remain a victim after divorce by (date).
- Identify the ones I use and why by (date).
- Develop a list of strategies to help me overcome playing the victim and implement them into my life so that I take back my control and power (date).
- Learn to identify negative, self destructive thoughts, and replace thoughts (repattern) with positive mindset by (date).
This plan is specific in that Marcie knows exactly what course of action to take step by step. Putting in exact dates for completion of each step is important. There is no question — either you do or you don’t complete the action step.
Of course, sometimes life gets in the way. These action steps aren’t set in stone and can be tweaked.
In closing, writing the goal is the first step in creating your new Life Map. Taking action is the critical step.
You are above the ordinary.
You can be the author of your life.
Grab a pen and begin creating.