Have you embraced a fresh start or are you just picking up the pieces of the divorce rubble moving forward in the direction of survival?
That was me! I made the decision but afterward, there was so much to do, packing up the house, selling a lot of unwanted possessions, packing up the moving trucks, juggling kids schedules and oh let’s not forget about the dog. How in the world was I going to handle so many responsibilities?
I knew the only way I was going to make it through the chaos was to start prioritizing my time.
That meant saying no to what was feeding my history and YES to what was going to feed my destiny.
This wasn’t easy at first; it was like stumbling in the dark trying to find my way to the kitchen in the middle of the night so I could find the fridge to quench my thirst. But just like any learned behavior, it took one step at a time, investing in self, rediscovering what made me happy and what my life’s purpose is.
I found that I liked yoga, juicing, journaling, classical music, whole foods, meditation, travel, nature, and a whole lot more but what was most priceless was hearing my kids’ laughter, something that we were short on prior to the exit plan.
The number one reason I had to learn to say no more is so I could say yes to me. I had to spend time healing from the inside out so I could live the life I had been dreaming of. I had to get rid of negative people in my life so I could focus on my gratitude journal, allowing me to manifest positive moments in my life, from travel to TV appearances, my happiness became an inside job that spilled over into my outer world. Saying no to dating toxic men helped me to say yes to the time I needed to heal so I could attract a reflection of the wholeness I was working on becoming.
Healing after divorce is definitely a journey and not a destination, it can be challenging but you don’t have to experience it alone.
Here are 6 tips why saying no is important to you thriving after divorce:
1. It’s crucial for you to not jam-pack your schedule with to do lists for other people, divorce is a time for much-needed self-care so you can gain clarity.
2. Your health depends on it! When we constantly say yes to everyone else, we create added stress, which wreaks havoc on our bodies mentally, physically, and emotionally.
3. After Divorce our communication can be jumbled especially to our children, this is why it’s important to take time out, silence our minds so we can gain clarity and communicate effectively at a level our kids will understand.
4. Open ourselves up to forgiveness; the last thing we want is someone else feeding toxic thoughts. If you want to thrive you have to deal and heal, letting go doesn’t mean you are giving in, it means understanding the best is yet to come.
5. Gratitude will keep your focus on the positive instead of dwelling on the negative, by keeping a gratitude journal you will invite more positive into your life. It’s one of the most effective ways of getting in touch with your soul, opening yourself up to new possibilities.
6. Surrendering to control, stop focusing on everyone else and focus on yourself. Surrendering by far can be the most challenging exercise you will ever be asked to do but I promise you when you surrender to the need to control others and things and realize that there is a component of time that does not belong to us, the more FLOW you invite into your life and the easier things will happen that of which your soul is seeking.
Now that you have an amazing head start on manifesting the life of your dreams, what are you waiting for? After all the world has been waiting for your awesomeness, it’s time to let go so you can thrive instead of survive! The more I practice letting go, the more you can see and I experience the authentic ME!