Divorce paperwork can be completely overwhelming. If you’re feeling defeated by mountains of papers, here are tips on what to focus on first.
Divorce paperwork can be incredibly daunting. It’s not unusual for us to meet a client who has collected multiple filing boxes full of documents, spent more than $30,000 in lawyer’s fees, and been through two or three lawyers.
The frustration and worry is written on their face when we first meet. They are beyond stressed and so devastated because they trusted that if they followed legal counsel and gave all requested paperwork to their attorney, that they would be taken care of. The defeat on their face when they realize that’s not really what happened is prevalent.
Tips on Getting Through the Divorce Paperwork
We sit down together. Then we talk about where they are in the divorce process and specifically which documents in particular are weighing most heavily on them. Next, we move onto real estate, business assets, appraisals, business evaluations, pension plans, and the list goes on.
Thanks to my 30 years of paralegal experience, I have an “eye” for the details that sometimes get lost in the mountains of paperwork. I talk about a plan to organize paperwork – step by step. We talk about each document and how it plays a part in the divorce process. It’s so empowering for someone going through a divorce to be able to make sense of their assets and liabilities – it allows them to confidently articulate questions and facts to their attorney or mediator.
Gaining a Sense of Relief and Confidence
To help them read documents in a way that they can elicit appropriate questions as it relates to the process is quite relieving and rewarding. They leave our office feeling sure of themselves and knowing what the next steps are in the process. It’s no longer someone else’s responsibility to solve their problems – now they can view their divorce team as an ally, in the process, to help them get what is fair and equitable.
When my clients arrive, they are defeated and unsure, when they leave, their head is held high, they have confidence, and they have a renewed sense of hope.