When you go through a divorce, it can feel like you’re on a crazy roller coaster. A divorce is a loss, and it’s normal to go through some kind of grieving process. Throughout that process, though, you might find it hard to enjoy some of the same things you did before. Specifically, you might find it difficult to enjoy the things you used to do with your ex.
Some of your favorite hobbies and activities during your marriage might have been things you did together as a couple. That’s normal. After all, having things in common and enjoying the same hobbies brings couples together.
But that doesn’t mean you have to give up those things you enjoy just because they remind you of your former spouse. After a divorce, one of the best things you can do is to reclaim your individuality. That means reclaiming your name, your title, and the things you like to do. So, don’t be afraid to make a few adjustments to the things you used to do with your ex, and find new ways of making them your own, so you can enjoy them for years to come.
Here are 4 Tips on How to Enjoy the Things You Used to do With Your Ex.
Feeling Comfortable at Home
Home should be a place of refuge, and a place where you feel safe and comfortable. Unfortunately, if you stay in the marital home, that’s not always the case. You’ve probably collected things over the years that hold significant memories for your marriage. Maybe you designed the house or certain rooms together, picked out furniture, paint colors, and decorations.
You don’t have to leave your marital home in order to find some comfort and peace there again. But you can change some things to fit your own personal taste. Make a hobby out of changing up your home, and you’ll be able to stay busy and start fresh at the same time.
First, throw away the things you don’t need. Decluttering your home is a great way to symbolize the negative energy you’re getting rid of. If you want to practice the art of feng shui, you can do things like making sure each room has enough light and learning more about your home’s energy. Home design and redecorating can be a lot of fun, and you can find new ways to love it even if you previously shared your house with your ex.
Traveling to New Places
Traveling is a popular activity for couples. It allows you to experience new things together and create memories across the globe. Don’t let a divorce keep you from packing up your suitcase from time to time. There are millions of places to see and even more things to do.
If you’ve got the travel bug, keep giving into it after your divorce. Make a point to check out some places you’ve never been before and try new things there that you may not have done with your ex-spouse.
You can visit typical tourist towns and attractions. or go off the beaten path. Give in to your wanderlust and have your own personal adventure while on vacation. Traveling is not only one of the best ways to clear your head and clean the slate, but it can give you some hope that you can enjoy bigger things on your own.
Finding New Ways to Enjoy Old Hobbies
Sometimes, the smallest things are what make the biggest difference. The everyday activities you and your spouse did together can be the hardest to enjoy once they’re gone. Things as simple as cooking together can make it difficult for you to step into the kitchen again with any kind of enjoyment.
Whether you’re cooking for one or making dinner for your family, it has to be done, so try to find ways to make it fun for yourself again. One of the best ways to do that is to try new recipes with unique ingredients or new cooking techniques that you haven’t used before. Taking a culinary class and learn something different to try at home.
That same idea can carry over into almost all of the “small activities” you used to do together as a couple. You don’t need to stop doing them, but you may need to adjust them. Did you walk the dog together each night? Find a new route to try. Did you watch a particular television show together every Saturday evening? Find a new one to enjoy. Did you go to the gym together? Set new fitness goals for yourself and find a new workout plan.
If you’re able to find new ways of doing old things, you can claim them as your own, and find enjoyment in them once again.
Starting Fresh by Being Your Best
In addition to finding new ways of doing old things, don’t be afraid to break out of your comfort zone and try new hobbies and activities on your own. It’s easy to get lost in the negative emotions of divorce, but you don’t have to hold onto that bitterness.
By finding new things to love and enjoy, you can be better than before. You can let go of resentment and anger, and focus on living your best life as you start the next chapter.