What can I expect to get out of a men’s group?
Typical things that you might get out of a men’s group include:
Learning that you are not alone in going through the divorce process. Of course, in your head you know that you are not the only person to have gone through a divorce, but it is difficult to evaluate the divorce experience when you are by yourself. Unfortunately, we men typically do not talk a lot about our personal experiences, especially when those experiences are painful or embarrassing.
In a currently popular series of beer commercials, a group of men get together in a secret location to discuss the rules for manhood. Collectively, they refer to these rules as “man law.” (For some reason, most of the laws have something to do with beer!) A real review of “man laws” would certainly include the rule about keeping stuff to ourselves, dealing with our problems without outside help. Regrettably, this latter rule creates additional problems, especially when you are going through something as emotionally difficult as a divorce. You may be surprised to learn that in a group setting men typically share more about their experiences than they do in an individual situation. The rules and atmosphere of the group promote candor, and as others talk about their lives, you become more able to talk about your own. Thus, you get a better understanding of how others have “weathered the storm”.
This book is for men who are in the process of going through or recovering from a divorce. Whether she moved out today, you just left the courtroom after the final hearing, or you have been divorced awhile and are already dating, this book will help you make the decisions and do the things that will make life after divorce better.
The Guys-Only guide to Getting Over Divorce and on with LIFE, SEX, and RELATIONSHIPS Authors Sam J Buser PhD & Glenn F. Sternes PhD.