Things are gradually getting back to normal. While some Floridians who want a vaccine have not received one, that number is getting smaller each day.
As a result, you and your kids may be able to get down to the beach or some other vacation spot this summer. If you’re divorced, though, you know that nothing is quite as simple as it used to be.
Having an Enjoyable Vacation With Your Kids This Summer
Still, simply addressing a few extra considerations, which we’ve outlined below, can keep everyone — even your former spouse — happy this summer.
1. Follow the rules outlined in your parenting plan.
Your parenting plan probably lays out requirements for the way you and your former spouse can take the children on vacation. Taking the kids out of state is sure to require advance notification. Depending on time-sharing, you may be able to go on your family vacation without cutting into visitation time for your former spouse. If, for instance, your former spouse has the children the entire summer, be prepared to give up something in exchange for that summer getaway.
2. Communicate early and often.
Unfortunately, there’s no room for spontaneity with post-divorce vacations with the kids. Waiting until the last minute to inform the other parent about the vacation you want to take is not a wise decision. Co-parenting relationships are rarely — if ever — derailed by too much communication. There are plenty of apps and programs available to help you and your ex coordinate time sharing during the summer.
3. Involve the other parent as much as is reasonable.
No, you’re not required to take your former spouse with you on the vacation, but remember that your kids want to share their experiences with their other parent, too. Sending a postcard is a nice gesture; having the kids call the other parent once or twice during the trip (or as required under the parenting plan) also goes a long way toward fostering an optimal co-parenting relationship. If the parenting plan permits, you could even have the other parent waiting to pick up the kids from the airport (if you’re flying, that is).
4. Remember: This is not a competition.
If you keep trying to give your children a more extravagant vacation than your former spouse, you’re only competing in a game where everyone loses. Keep your focus on where it should be: helping your children make memories with the people they love. Don’t forget to have a little fun yourself!
A Good Attorney Can Help Produce a Good Co-Parenting Relationship
An effective and fair parenting plan is the foundation of a solid co-parenting relationship. The best way to make sure your parenting plan achieves your goals and puts your kids first is by hiring a capable and experienced family law attorney.
Sergio Cabanas is a family law attorney and mediator in Florida. He is the Senior Attorney-Managing Partner of Divorce & Mediation Law Firm which is a top law firm in Pembroke Pines, Weston, and Sunny Isles Beach that focuses exclusively on family law matters. The firm supports formal mediation in most cases and their seasoned litigators will fight to protect clients’ rights in court when necessary. The firm serves clients in both English and Spanish. www.CabanasLawFirm.com