Divorce is a time of intense change, upheaval, and uncertainty. Your ability to grieve the loss of how things were and embrace this new reality, and get your children to do the same, will play a significant role in helping you all to move forward.
Mothers and Divorce
Addiction doesn’t just impact the addicted individual, but the entire family unit. As a result, many times addiction, divorce, and child custody issues go hand in hand.
“Coaching” is a malicious act of alienation by one parent against the other parent whereby that parent instructs or coaches a child to say bad things about the opposing parent.
Having the kids call the other parent once or twice during the trip (or as required under the parenting plan) also goes a long way toward fostering an optimal co-parenting relationship.
Do not give up your children and throw in the towel because of their social lives, inconveniences, and teenage hormones. It would mean the world to a child to receive a phone call every day, or every other day, saying the simplest things; a five minute call.
When telling your children about your divorce be as quick possible. Choose your words carefully and make sure to show a united front.
Initial communication regarding your divorce should be as short as possible. Let your children know there will be changes because of the divorce, and that you will both be there for them no matter what. Choose your wording carefully.
From the precious time of birth through seven years old, the groundwork is laid that determines what adolescent years will look like. And while the celebration and acceptance of femininity in daughters is not the entire picture, it is a foundational aspect of it.
Too often parents weaponize their children during and after a divorce. They use their children to try to inflict pain on the other person.
International child abduction can often be thwarted but requires awareness on the part of the parent. Take advantage of the protections in place. Do not wait to take steps until the abduction occurs.