I’m in my 50s and have just divorced my husband of 25 years. I’m eager to make a brand new start and, although I’ve been told I’m still an attractive woman, I’m considering getting a facelift. Although the idea excites me for some reasons, it also scares me a little. My mother has had plastic surgery and was very unhappy with how it turned out. What advice can you give on this matter?
My husband has been having an affair and recently moved out to be with his girlfriend. We have two young children; I am the primary parent. He has a very good job and makes a lot of money for himself, while I’m barely making ends meet raising the kids. Do you think I should fight to get as much of his money as possible in court, or would it be safer just to depend on spousal and child support in the divorce settlement?
When I first married, my husband — a very successful businessman — always encouraged me to follow my dreams and live to the fullest. With his positive support, I worked my way up and have had a satisfying career as a fashion designer. Now, suddenly, he has filed for divorce! I am devastated — suddenly I’ve lost all confidence and my work no longer seems to have any meaning. I don’t know if I can continue to be happy or successful without him. What can I do?
I’m 65 and have recently remarried. My wife, a widow, is a wonderful, generous woman — maybe too generous. The problem is her 30-year-old daughter, who lives with us. My stepdaughter makes no effort to get a full-time job or move out on her own. She spends most of her time eating our food, watching our TV, and using our phone line to surf the Internet. How do I confront my wife about this without “rocking the boat” of our otherwise very happy marriage?
Dear Senior Stepdad,