I have been married for two years to a man who refuses to be my partner in any way. Despite my attempts to share a common interest or activity, he chooses to watch TV in the bedroom in complete darkness from morning to night. It’s like an addiction. I have complained, begged, asked and written letters to him asking him to please live life with me but to no avail. He doesn’t participate in household chores, our sex life has been reduced to zero, and starting a family has been put on hold indefinitely. He has refused to go for counseling, and the distance between us grows every day. So my question is: when should I give up and ask him for a divorce?
My wife and I have been married for 18 years with four children. To make a long story short, I found a bunch of e-mails between my wife and one of her clients, and she has admitted to having sex with this guy. I moved out for a few days and she begged me to go to a marriage counselor with her. I came back because I missed her, my house, my kids, my dog, my life. She says the affair is over, but I am still crushed and don’t know if I’ll ever trust her again. I hope you can point me in the right direction; should I stay or should I go?
My husband and I married 20 years ago when we found out I was pregnant. At that time, we both felt that it was the right decision; later on, we realized that it was a mistake. Today, we have two great kids, ages 13 and 19. We both love our children very much and have always put them first. We decided a long time ago that we would make an effort to keep our marriage together as long as the children were at home. But our marriage is empty: we have had sex twice in the last ten years, and we hardly speak to each other. My husband is content to go on as things are and has told me that it would “destroy” our boys if we divorced. But I am only 41 and long for much more. Am I being selfish to want a divorce?
My husband and I are fighting on daily basis. We still love each other, but we always end up having these big fights — some of which are physical. We have been married for almost ten years, and our arguing is taking a toll on our six-year-old daughter, who is very confused, scared, and upset by our fights. I don’t have anywhere to go to take a break from this situation. I have been thinking of separating but don’t know how my little girl will take it. Please help!
I have two children, ages 8 and 3. I am getting remarried in a few weeks and would like any advice on helping my kids cope with the transition. Their dad has told them all sorts of things (mostly untrue) about the reasons for our divorce, my fiance, etc. I love my kids and want them to be happy, but I also want to be happy. My fiance and I will do whatever we can to make this an easy transition. Do you have any advice about how we can help my kids?