The most tragic component of a toxic divorce is parental alienation. Divorce is frightening for children because the family structure changes dramatically; a change that they have no control over. Children want and need to love both of their parents. Thankfully, most parents understand this.
Sadly, there are parents who choose to involve their children in the messy divorce. Those individuals know that the way they are able to harm their former partner is to take their children from them. So how can you protect your children from parental alienation? There is no simple answer since parental alienation comes in many forms but there are some key components to look for as per Dr. Richard Gardner, the “founder” of Parental Alienation Syndrome.
Parental Alienation can occur very quickly. All the alienating parent needs is access to the child and a willingness of the child to participate. Alienators are very sly and often coerce the child with toys, vacations, and privileges which enable them to brainwash the child to believe that they are the “good” parent and the targeted parent is “bad.”
How you overcome alienation depends on the age of your child and whether you still have communication with your child. If you do have a relationship with the child, there are some things you can do to thwart total alienation from taking place.
If your ex-spouse is keeping your child from you, under the guise that your child does not want to see you, speak with your attorney immediately so that legal action can be taken. The family law courts frown on violated interfered visitations and will change custody schedule if need be. Many alienators end up with supervised visitation so that they are unable to continue to alienate the child. These arrangements may only be made by court orders so you must receive legal guidance on how to proceed.