People often make references to karma. My mother’s favorite one was to talk about how whatever you put out into the universe comes back at you ten fold, so be careful what you put out. Another coach I know talks about how we train people how to treat us, and that how we live part of our lives is how we will live throughout our lives. Whatever your belief system around karma, it can certainly come back to bite you in a divorce.
When going through a divorce there are issues to consider that the rest of the world doesn’t have to, like how the judge views our actions or how the greater community will. Even more profound is how the children will view us if there are children involved. Our actions are constantly being watched.
I got divorced about 8 years ago, and almost a year ago my ex-husband passed away. I ended up having 4 court battles with his mother, some of which are documented in my upcoming book, for my own children. I finally won the latest battle with her when the judge denied her visitation petition. The judge stated that in his opinion there was no pattern of denial and I had done everything required of me, and for the first time in 8 years a judge praised me from the bench for being reasonable.
A few days after this victory in court, his mother asked me if she could come and see the children. I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to do it. I would be lying if I said I welcomed her with open arms and no conditions. However, I
The visit was difficult and to say otherwise would again be a lie, but it’s now in the rear-view mirror. How other people treat us is their karma, we’re not in control of their attitudes and actions toward us. All we can do is endure and choose our own actions. The choices we make, the reactions and responses we give, that is our karma. I can raise my head high and know I did the right thing, and others will on some level have to live with the fact that they misjudged me. Either way, when I go before my creator, I will not be standing in
I like to think that in leading by example, I will have made some small impact in the lives of a group of people who can only be described as haters of me. Either way, I can look at my karma and know that I’ve made the best choices I can. As for the ex-mother in law she appreciated my kindness towards
What’s your karma? Are you stuck in the karma of others by letting them call the shots over your actions and emotions, or are you taking back your own karma?
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