As I reflected, I realized that when I was married that I made tons of sacrifices. I compromised and gave up on things that I believed would make my marriage work.
When I divorced, I placed many limitations on how far I could go.
I allowed my divorce and being a single mom as an excuse for many things. I believed that there was a ceiling on my life and because of that thought pattern, I didn’t go any further than what I believed.
Never Let a Limited Belief System Hold You Back After Divorce
I settled for mediocre relationships and even jobs because in my mind that was all I could get. Anything that was greater than the belief of mediocrity was constant excuses on why I couldn’t or thoughts of “Who am I to have it?”
That belief caused me to stay in a cycle for four years post-divorce. The same things kept occurring and the only thing changing was the year, my age and time.
When I finally woke up from taking inventory of mediocre patterns in my life, I got exactly what I believed I was only deserving of. I never even gave myself permission to want or go after anything more than what I received. I had already said no before given the opportunity!
I said no to a better life!
No to better relationships!
No to abundance!
No to real love!
What can come from a belief of “nos”? Nothing but what you’re currently getting if not less.
After seeing that my life was only an indication of what I believed, I decided to do something differently. I made a choice of saying “yes” to me. I renewed a new vow to myself.
When getting married, you’re saying yes to this person for life. You’re saying yes to love, honor and cherish this individual through better and worse.
One of the reasons why divorce hurts so badly is because you made a vow. You made a promise and because it didn’t turn out as planned, you can easily believe nothing else will but that’s far from the truth. We often confuse being divorced as who we are when it’s only an experience we’ve been through. This confusion causes you to settle and create a limited belief.
What have you said yes to?
I’m not talking about the yes of familiarity and comfort. I’m referring to the yes that scares you because you know that’s what you want. It’s the type of yes that stretches you!
Have you ever thought what life would be like if you said yes to yourself? How would it look if you chose to love, honor, cherish and respect yourself through all seasons?
There is power in the word “Yes”. Yes creates blessings! It opens doors that the word “no” cannot do. It pushes you from your comfort zone. It builds healthy relationships. It experiences real love. It creates an optimistic mindset. It becomes your superpower!
I challenge you to write down all the things you’ve said no to because of your limiting beliefs and next to those things write down what are the possibilities if you decided to say “yes!”
Your mind is your most powerful asset. It will drive you to the “yeses” you choose for your life or the nos. It will give you what you want or don’t want because of what you believe. Do you have a limited belief system? Deep down what has your belief system been consumed with? Has it been filled with thoughts of the impossible or possible? The “I can’t” or “I can”? The “I Will” or “I Won’t”. It’s not enough to just say it but it’s what you believe that’s going to direct you.
Make today the day to stop saying no because of what has happened and choose yes because it happened because you owe it to yourself to thrive after divorce!