Relationship expert, author, and divorce blogger Kimberly Pryor answers: For now, hide the photos and videos where you can’t see them. But don’t throw them away.
It’s important to keep them for many reasons. Most importantly, throwing the photos and videos away sends the message to your kids that the union that brought them into this world was all a lie. This can harm their self-identity. As your kids grow older, they’ll also want to feel connected to their family roots. Looking at old photos is a way to do this.
Save the photos for when your children are older and living in a place of their own. You can give them to your kids then.
As time goes on, your bitterness about the divorce will fade and you may even look back upon your wedding as an important day in your life. You can pat yourself on the back for all the planning you put into the event. And celebrate how beautiful you looked that day.
Although your relationship with your husband collapsed, it still had a very good outcome-it produced your two beautiful children. And that’s a very good reason to be grateful for your wedding day.
Kimberly Pryor is a journalist and the author of The Indestructible Relationship, which won the EPIC eBook Award for best nonfiction of 2012. Visit her blog at www.afterdivorceadvice.com.