Coping with Divorce

How can women get help for the emotional side of the divorce?

Not everyone who goes through a divorce needs to go into therapy. For many women it can be helpful to discuss their emotions with a therapist to learn coping tools for working through rough patches that they have hit during this time of transition. Children, too frequently, benefit from both family and individual counseling. Friends […]

How can men cope with the emotions that come up in the divorce process?

Make a list of things you enjoy doing and try to work in one or two of those activities a week, such as shooting hoops with friends or working on a hobby or project. Enjoyable tasks will help to ground you in the understanding that there is life after divorce. Don’t engage in unnecessary bickering […]

What special challenges do men face when they decide to divorce?

With divorce, it’s understandable that some men might want to rip off the band-aid as fast as possible. Rushing the process or making decisions fueled by emotion instead of reason can easily lead to mistakes. A man who feels guilty or just wants out of the relationship, might give in to whatever his former spouse […]

How Do You Approach Cases of Golden-Age Divorce in New Mexico?

Golden-age divorce in New Mexico requires a lawyer to see beyond what the client owns and owes. For example, does one spouse have dementia? Are they an unsafe driver?

What’s the first step someone should take if they’ve decided they want a divorce but haven’t told their spouse?

If you’ve not yet shared the decision with your spouse, you should go about gathering various financial information as well as trying to prepare yourself both emotionally as well as economically for what’s going to be somewhat of an upheaval in your life. Share it with your spouse, ask the question, “Why?” Get prepared for […]

WATCH: What is the latest research on the effects of divorce on children?

After years of studying the impact of divorce on children, we have discovered that it is the CONFLICT between the parents, not the divorce per se, that is so emotionally traumatic for children.

What does high conflict mean in the context of divorce?

Sometimes, the divorcing couple can’t speak to one another because it is very emotional and hurtful, and a lot of emotions are raised. I would consider a high conflict to be more with those couples who almost will aggravate one another, whether intentionally or because it’s driven out of hurt or fear. The high conflict […]

What are the effects a high-conflict divorce can have on the children?

A high-conflict divorce can have a very devastating effect on children. The fighting, the tension, the emotional turmoil – a lot of times the children do pick up on this. It’s very important for the clients to remember that they love their child more than the emotional troubles that they’re having with their spouse and […]