Life after divorce can be very challenging, especially for a single dad. It might seem impossible at this very moment, but life still awaits. You have the freedom to pursue your passions, be the best dad you can be, enjoy your libido, and find love once again.
Divorce is difficult and no matter how strong you are, the whole situation is bound to take its emotional toll. It’s crucial that you accept that this rough patch is completely normal and natural.
But every new day is an opportunity to restart your life. If you’re here reading this, you already have the will to create an amazing life for yourself and your kids. So keep on reading.
How to Improve Divorced Dads’ Mental Well-Being
1. Give Yourself the Time to Heal
Going through a divorce is never easy. Instead of trying to ignore the grief and discomfort inside you, it’s important that you face those feelings so that you can actually heal your emotional wounds. Remember, if you don’t do anything to address your negative feelings, they won’t disappear.
On the surface, you might think you’re fine after a while, but those unresolved issues from the divorce will always find a way to creep into your life, especially when it comes to new relationships. What’s more, your kids will notice the negative energy that often shows in the most insignificant activities when you have a bleeding wound in your heart.
It’s true that facing your fears and emotions after divorce is very difficult. But you should do this for your long-term benefit, and the benefit of your kids. You’re not alone; your friends, family, and even a therapist are all there to help you go through this difficult period in your life, heal and learn from it, and ultimately open the doors wide to the new path in life.
2. Make the Most out of Your Single Life
Being single is not the end of the world. You won’t have to remain single forever. What’s more, now that you have more time for yourself, you can focus on bettering your life and even enjoying the benefits of being single. For starters, this is a great time to rediscover some of your past hobbies and interests.
After all, engaging in things you love is a great way to improve your mental well-being. You can take this opportunity to try something new, visit new places, and so on. Not to mention that you get the chance to plan out amazing activities for the days you get to spend with your kids.
Of course, it’s important to address the sexual aspect of your life. Just because you’re divorced doesn’t mean you have to suffocate your needs. If you want to work on your mental and emotional health, it’s perfectly fine to start dating again. Your needs in this regard are also meaningful for your complete recovery. It’s all for the purpose of feeling good again, regaining confidence in your libido, and healing in a healthy manner.
3. Find the Common Ground With Your Ex
One of the most difficult but extremely crucial things you’ll have to do after divorce in order to improve your life and well-being and be the best parent for your kids you can be is to find common ground with your ex. You two might no longer be together, but that doesn’t change the fact that you’re both your children’s parents. And if you want to be there for your kids, you’ll have to accept the presence of your ex in their and your life. What’s more, you’ll often have to meet and talk about your kids.
In order to make this situation less awkward, you two should do everything in your power to discuss and accept the reasons that caused your divorce in the first place. It’s not about you anymore, but the happiness of your kids. And if you want to continue your life normally, it’s only natural that you bury the hatchet.
Again, conversation, introspection, and facing your inner demons are all a must in order to do this step properly. You want to be able to parent your kids in the future, potentially with a future Mrs. by your side, and your ex’s future husband, and there’s no better way to manage this change than by dealing with all the feelings, questions, and misunderstandings as soon as possible.
Many people go through a divorce in this day and age. Just because you two couldn’t make things work romantically, doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to find a lifelong romantic partner again. Quite the contrary. This experience will help you grow and learn more about yourself, your wants and needs only if you allow it to. So don’t run away and face everything that comes with a divorce honestly. For divorced dads (and moms), this is the fastest and healthiest road to a happy life.
Lauren Laporte is a health writer at ripped.me. Her favorite subjects revolve around mental and physical health, and how they inevitably affect eachother. Inspired by mountains of research and the latest in the fields of nutrition, neuroscience and cognitive science, she’s motivated to inform people of just how much they’re all interconnected. www.ripped.me/author/lauren-laporte