Make the most of your parenting time by keeping it focused on your kid as much as possible. This doesn’t mean being what we call the “Disney Dad,” where time with you is always a fun trip or a special event. Helping your kids with homework, taking them to doctor appointments, or even hitting the local playground for a few hours are ways to bond.
Don’t badmouth the other parent in front of your kids. This kind of behavior is confusing and alienating for children and it doesn’t draw you closer. Unless there is a specific provision preventing you from doing so, make it a priority to show up for your kids’ sporting events, school concerts, and parent-teacher conferences.
If you see your ex at these same events, be cordial for your children’s sake. Stay in touch through Skype calls, text messages, and phone calls. Even a quick “Good luck on your test” text can show your child that you care. It might not be for everyone, but if you and your ex can come together peacefully to celebrate your children’s birthdays or the holidays as a family, you may be surprised at how much this benefits everyone’s relationships.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Law Group in New Jersey. She is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.