After experiencing infidelity and divorce, you might not look forward to celebrating Thanksgiving. But there’s a lot you have to be thankful for. This Thanksgiving, try to be thankful that:
- You walked away with no one dying.
- You found out the worst and now can move forward.
- You have friends and family that love you.
- Others had it worse.
- There are non-cheaters in the world.
- There are wonderful counselors and lawyers.
There are many headlines where someone killed their cheating partner and/or committed suicide due to infidelity. Feeling rage and being betrayed can lead to physical violence. Depression from having your world turned upside down can lead to thoughts of hurting one’s self.
Infidelity: a Roller Coaster of Emotions
After you found out your partner cheated, you probably went through a roller coaster of emotions. Now at rock bottom, you can move upwards and onwards. Realize others went through similar trauma and got through it.
You may not be with your partner, or you may not trust him or her, but you still have friends and family you can rely on. You may have leaned on one or more of them, and they really helped you through your Post Infidelity Stress Disorder. You learned how important these relationships are to you.
Support groups like HelpAfterInfidelity.com, a community that offers free advice and answers questions you may have after discovering you’ve been cheated on, are accessible through your computer. These communities are great resources to get support from experts and individuals who had similar experiences. You can get help at any time of the day or night!
You have been cheated on and betrayed. There may have been other issues in your relationship, but realize there are others that probably had it worse. Some were left with debt, nowhere to live, and children devastated by the situation. Others have physical and emotional scars that may never fully heal. The bottom line is you are not alone, and you can heal and get relief from whatever pain you are in due to your circumstances. You do not have to suffer, and you can find solace in the fact that many people came from difficult places and found themselves in even better places in their lives! There is hope!
For all the millions of people who cheat, there are those who are faithful. There are those who don’t cheat because they know it could lead to diseases, unwanted pregnancies, divorce, breaking apart families, and other issues. The elite group of non-cheaters take their commitments seriously; don’t believe in betrayal or deception.
Professional Support can Help you Recover from Infidelity
After being cheated on, you may have found a great counselor who guided you through your turmoil and helped you understand what you are feeling. They may have prescribed medication that relieved your physical pain, stress, depression, and/or something that helped you sleep. You may have been referred to a wonderful attorney who advised you of your rights and explained what to expect from a divorce proceeding. There are many good professional people who specialize in helping people cope with the devastation of infidelity. It’s an opportunity to get advice and make changes in your life that will fulfill you beyond your wildest dreams.
Remember: “Knowledge is Power!” It is a good time to celebrate what you are grateful for in your life. It helps take the focus away from the negativity and puts it back on the positive so you can move forward with energy and hope!
Gary Spivak and Julie Surrey are the co-founders of www.fidelitydating.com. Gary holds a Master’s Degree in Management from New Jersey Institute of Technology and is a former Financial Advisor. Julie holds a BA in Psychology and Theatre Arts from Hampshire College; she is a Certified Life Coach, Hypnotist, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Practitioner.