The decision to divorce is never easy. If you don’t know how to handle it, it can turn into a painful experience that will leave scars on your soul.
If a client has chosen – or in some cases, if a court has ordered – mediation, the best thing a local divorce lawyer can do is not to throw their client under the bus by not preparing them for the process. Every divorce case is different; lawyers need to correctly evaluate each case and give very personalized advice to their divorcing clients.
Without further ado, here are some basics that every person should know before going into a divorce mediation.
1. It Will Be Stressful. If you have dodged the bullet of litigation, you are among the fortunate few. However, having to sit at a table where you’ll have to agree on every aspect of your former life being split in two won’t be a piece of cake. So make sure that the mediator creates a comfortable environment for you. In some cases, your lawyer will be by your side in each session; in others, you may meet with just your ex-spouse and the mediator.
2. Nobody Can Resolve a Divorce Better Than You. As full of rage and hurt as two people on the brink of a separation are, it is a known fact that a judge or an arbiter can’t possibly understand the relationship between them as well as they do. It is only natural then that the divorcing couple should be the ones negotiating their agreement rather than having one imposed on them by someone else.
3. You Will Be in Control. Not being in court has its perks, since a lawyer’s clients will have more control over the decision-making process. Here are a few things that a good lawyer will do to prepare their clients for divorce mediation:
4. The Benefits of Mediation
To wrap things up, there are a couple of things to remember: a well-informed client is a less tormented client, and a less tormented client will usually make better decisions than one who is blinded by emotions. So make sure you have chosen a lawyer who will help you feel this way. Your lawyer should inform you of the importance of the mediation process, and the consequences for failing to achieve resolution.
Brian J. Musell is a Criminal Lawyer based in Denver, CO. He works on myriad criminal cases including: DUI/DUAI, domestic violence, harassment, sexual assault, and stalking to name a few. MetroDenverCriminalDefense.comBack To Top
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