You must decide how you will fit into the family and not allow yourself to feel easily rejected by your stepchild.
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It’s no longer up to others to help you bounce back from your parents’ divorce. It can no longer be about their attitudes or behavior. It’s time for you to create change in your life and move forward.
Once you accept that you can only control your own behavior – not that of a person with a difficult or high conflict personality – your life will greatly improve.
Many stepparents blame themselves or the relationship itself once disillusionment sets in, rather than reevaluating their unrealistic expectations. When this occurs, partners can play the “blame game” and position themselves against each other, not beside each other.
As humans, we develop coping mechanisms to avoid pain, but sometimes we sabotage our relationships when our immediate reactions to triggers don’t lead to the desired outcome of more loving interactions.
Reflect on your patterns of behavior and thought, including your history of these patterns, as a way to evaluate the root causes of any negative cycles that have formed.
Communicating love and admiration to your partner is a hallmark of courtship, yet as couples settle in to dealing with the stresses of day-to-day life, these comments may start to fade in frequency.
Many single parents are seeking new ways to entertain and stimulate their children during the pandemic.
You and your children can build new traditions and memories of the holidays that will endure the test of time and nourish everyone after divorce. The holiday season doesn’t have to be a time of stress overload.
The challenges of remarriage and stepfamily life can chisel away at the closeness of you and your spouse if you forget to make your partner a top priority. This can only truly be communicated through consistency between your actions and words.