The holidays after divorce can be a tough time. Here are some tips for those of us who will be experiencing the holidays after separation.
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What is emotional IQ? And is your “emotional tank” is closer to empty than to full?
“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” – Tom Mullen My favorite metaphor for what it’s like when two people get married is “two ticks and no dog”. In his book, The Marriage Builder, Dr. Larry Crabb introduced the concept of the “tick-on-a-dog” relationship. […]
When Shakespeare originally asked the “To Be or Not To Be” question, he most likely didn’t have the subject of divorce on his mind. Sadly, it’s a question that we think about a lot more in this generation. As a divorce recovery coach, I know the heartache of divorce all too well — the sleepless […]
As I sat on the floor with my favorite after-school snack and juice, I watched TV mindlessly. My 10-year-old mind wandered until the image of a mom and dad flashed on the TV screen. They were explaining to their kids that daddy is moving to a new home and they would stay with mommy. But, […]
For me, and eventually for my clients, one of the most challenging aspects of getting through a divorce is trying to pick up your trashed self-esteem off the floor and bring it back to life. In my coaching career, this subject comes up a great deal. Here are some of my favorite strategies to counteract […]
If you are a woman going through or recovering from divorce, have you ever said something like this to yourself?: “I feel shut down, closed off, and numb. I need to protect myself and not show weakness or vulnerability.” But, if you have ever seen a momma bear protecting her cubs, you know that the […]
There are intrusions and unexpected events that can stop us from moving forward in our lives. Dealing with divorce can be one of the most straining transitions we will ever have to encounter, face, and navigate through — like a choppy and turbulent river. At certain pivotal points in life, the intensity and duration of […]
Fear is a normal human emotion. We all experience it, know what it feels like, and have, at times, been overcome by it. So, you are not alone and there is nothing wrong with you. I remember when my ex-husband left me six years ago and I was frozen in fear. With little notice, he […]
Happiness is based on external circumstances. When you get a raise, buy a new couch, or find a terrific outfit, you are happy. But joy is different. Joy comes from a place deep within. It exists regardless of external circumstances. Joy can co-exist with pain, suffering, and times of difficulty. And self-esteem is essential to […]