Not everyone who goes through a divorce needs to go into therapy. For many women it can be helpful to discuss their emotions with a therapist to learn coping tools for working through rough patches that they have hit during this time of transition. Children, too frequently, benefit from both family and individual counseling.
Friends and family can be wonderful and vital forms of emotional support. Watch funny movies together, go for a run or walk with some friends on the weekends to lift your mood, and think about taking them up on their offer to watch the kids while you go for a massage.
Just be cautious of leaning on them, those friends and family, for legal guidance. Your divorced friends and family can tell you all about what they went through, but you need to remember that no two divorces are alike and family law is constantly changing. Their advice may be well intentioned, but it also may be outdated, misguided, or just flat out wrong.
The last thing you need is confusing advice. The bottom line is to take full advantage of emotional support from your inner circle but leave the legal guidance to your attorney.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Law Group in New Jersey. She is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.