Unless the person giving you the information gave you permission, you’re not allowed to share that with the other party. However, what I would do in most cases is say to the person, “Look, this is a concern of yours. If it’s a concern of yours, I can weave it into some of the questions that I’m going to be asking you guys so that it’s brought up on the table without you bringing it up.” That way, it doesn’t look like you’re pointing a finger about something. A lot of times, they’ll allow me to do that, and we get it out on the table, it’s fully discussed, and the issue goes away.
With 30 years of experience in family law, Laura M. Urbik Kern is a certified mediator and family lawyer who concentrates on dissolution, family and juvenile law, child support, and complex domestic relations cases.