Couples who are splitting up are often hurt and angry. Setting these emotions aside can be difficult, but it is absolutely necessary to ensure productive negotiation. Focus on the law as you have been advised by your attorney or mediator, and concentrate on concrete aspects of your case such as the appropriate amount for you to pay or receive. Focusing on the emotions that alimony negotiations can trigger may only serve to upset and exhaust you more.
If you are using a mediator, remember that you hired your mediator as a professional to help you reach a resolution that will work for you and your family now, and going forward into the future. Trust their knowledge and experience, listen to your mediator or attorney when they offer you advice on how to proceed. Ignoring their recommendations could harm you and your case in the long run.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Law Group in New Jersey. She is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.