They should talk to their attorney. They shouldn’t talk to Family Services. At that point, the parent should separate from the partner for the time being immediately. Because, if the parent separates from their partner, their children will not be removed from their home. If that’s the only allegation, this other partner is abusive, but they are a good parent and they separate that person out of their home, then their children will stay there with them. Meanwhile, we can work with their new partner to try to work on whatever issues that person has – whether they need to go to anger management, domestic violence classes, parenting classes, or they have some sort of substance abuse issues. That person can start working on his issues or her issues, but the children will remain in the home with their legal parent – that’s the best solution.
Laura Schantz, a Beaverton divorce and family lawyer and mediator has helped clients find creative solutions to complex financial matters involving asset division, spousal support, and child support. To learn more about Laura Schantz and her firm, visit www.oregondivorceattorney.com.