Brian James, a divorce mediator in Chicago, answers:
Ideally, your mediator will be 100% neutral during the entire process and work for both parties equally. However, if one or both parties feel that the mediator is siding with one spouse, you may want to discuss these concerns with the mediator. Please keep in mind that the mediator is not there to be your friend and won’t always agree with you. Sometimes the mediator may say things you don’t like or don’t want to hear, but this doesn’t necessarily mean he or she is siding with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. Part of the mediator’s job is to be honest with clients and call them out when they are doing or saying things that are not beneficial to the mediation process.
Brian James is an experienced divorce and family mediator with offices throughout Chicagoland and Southeastern Wisconsin. He runs a mediation practice, C.E.L. and Associates where his approach to mediation is client driven.