In this podcast, Karen Covy responds to a question on the divorce process: “My spouse and I plan to divorce but haven’t started the process, what should we do first?”
Karen A. Covy, J.D. is a divorce attorney and family law mediator in Chicago Illinois . She is the author of When Happily Ever After Ends, How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially and Legally.
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Karen Covy Responds to a Question on the Divorce Process
Karen A. Covy: Talk to each other. I know it sounds crazy if you’re going through a divorce, but. it’s important that you talk as much as you can to your spouse, because the more things the two of you can decide together, the easier, quicker, and less expensive the process is going to be.
So when you’re talking to your spouse, what you want to talk about is the type of divorce process you want to use.
Do you want to divorce amicably? Do you think you can reach an agreement between yourselves? If not, are you going to need a mediator or a collaborative lawyer to help you through the process? You need to talk with your spouse and then get the help that’s right for you by using the process that you and your spouse have chosen.
If there is no talking to that person, then you have to escalate to that next step, and that would be litigation. If your spouse won’t talk to you, then you really don’t have a lot of choices. The only way to go through a divorce then is to litigate. In this case you would want to hire a good litigation attorney and listen to the attorney and go through the process. Even if you start to litigate, it doesn’t mean that you can’t talk to your spouse later on to try to reach an agreement. Most cases will settle, but if your spouse won’t talk to you, you’ve got to go to court.