Can two parents vacation together after a separation? Yes, but you can only do this if you and your former spouse get along really well and have learned to respect each other’s boundaries and different parenting styles. This arrangement is not one to be taken lightly. For many separated couples, there may be some “feelings” still lingering, as well as some existing resentment from the former union. If there are any of these issues in the picture, it is best to plan stay away from joint vocations.
There are however, some benefits to vacationing together. It can save money, make the kids happy and give you another adult to visit with. However, even if you and your former spouse do have mutual respect for each other this is not a decision to make lightly. Couples parent differently and when they are living apart, their parenting ethics are even more apparent. Therefore, in order to make this work you would need to set out the following in advance:
Parents vacationing together after a separation can be a mutually beneficial arrangement if your relationship is in the right place and if you follow the guidelines above. Remember, a vacation needs to be fun and relaxing for all parties involved, so ensure you are in the right place emotionally (you are over him/her) before making the commitment to share a vacation with your former spouse.
Karen Stewart, BSc., M.B.A., RHU, CDFA, R.F.M., is the President, CEO and founder of Fairway Divorce Solutions, a leading alternative divorce solutions firm. As an entrepreneur, leading divorce expert and proud single mother of three, Karen’ book, Clean Break: How to Divorce with Dignity and Move on with Your Life is a first-hand glimpse into the traditional system of divorce, it’s pitfalls and empowering alternatives, and is available at major book retailers across Canada.