In the state of New Jersey, you have to go to court. The question is, how long are you going to stay there? If you’ve resolved all your issues before the complaint is filed and everybody’s on the same page, it’s really just a matter of ultimately getting that judgment for divorce. There’s not going to be the discovery process and the bickering back and forth, so it’s not a question of fair. Ultimately, you’re going to end up in court at some point, but it’s just how do you land there and how do you leave. If you’ve gone through a mediative process successfully and/or a collaborative divorce process successfully, you’re going to court and you will reap the benefits of that process. A judgment of divorce will ultimately be rendered without a whole lot of court appearances.
Rosalyn Charles is a family lawyer practicing in Newark, New Jersey.