I can understand your hesitation and your lack of motivation to become involved in a face-to-face meeting with your ex-spouse and a total stranger who has no information about you or your family. Divorce is a very difficult and stressful event. At this time, communication between parties is often strained — even for those who previously have had good communication.
Mediation is a voluntary process, meaning that you have the option to participate or not to participate. Before making a decision to proceed, the mediator meets with each party to listen to his or her story and to make a determination about whether mediation is a viable option. Mediation helps people to learn how to communicate with each other in a way that works for everyone.
Before making your decision, consider attending a free Family Law Information session. These sessions, which provide information about the legal process and mediation , are held regularly throughout Toronto. If you’re uncertain whether mediation is right for you and your spouse, give yourself some time to think first. Then contact a mediator to see whether he or she thinks you’d be good candidates.
Antoinette Clarke is an experienced mediator who has provided all types of mediation to families from varying cultural economic backgrounds. She has developed and provided internship training, and she offers a workshop on “Assessing for Power Imbalances and Screening for Abuse.”