Many people deal with the fear of the unknown after divorce. This can cause a lot of anxiety for those who are trying to get their life back on track. As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on how to manage this fear.
Tips on Dealing With the Fear Of The Unknown After Divorce
1. Learn to Take it One Day At a Time
Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things. This includes learning how to deal with your problems. When the time comes, hopefully you will have learned the skills to deal with your situation.
2. Stop Worrying
Worrying can make the problem even worse. All the worrying in the world will not change anything. All you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride. If you still have trouble dealing with the fear of the future, talking to a counselor or clergyman can be of great help.
3. You Can’t Predict the Future
No one can predict the future with one hundred percent certainty. Even if the thing that you fear does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. For instance, you miss the deadline for a project you have been working on. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss tells you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything.
4. Things Are Always Changing
Nothing remains the same forever. If things are going badly for you, remember that it won’t last forever. There are so many factors that can change your current situation. Don’t assume that your current problems will last forever.
5. Use Self-Visualization
Sometimes, we can get anxious over a task that we will have to perform in the near future. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you have to play in the championship volleyball game in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind. By doing this, you will be better prepared when the time comes.
6. Take a Break
Some people get depressed and have a difficult time getting through the day. When this happens, you should take a deep breath and try to find something to do to get your mind off of the problem. You can take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper, or do an activity that will give you a fresh perspective on things.
7. Carry a Small Notebook With Positive Statements in It
Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed, open up your small notebook and read those statements.
8. Seek Some Help
If you still struggle with fear of the unknown after divorce, then talking to a counselor or clergyman can be of great help. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future. There are ways to help manage your fear and all it takes is some effort.
Remember that all you can do is your best each day. Hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride.
Stan Popovich is the author of the popular managing fear book, A Layman’s Guide To Managing Fear (CreateSpace, 2003). www.managingfear.com