First take a deep breath and relax knowing that you will be prepared and that the better prepared you are the less stressful this marital dissolution will be.
First Things First: Purchase a large spiral bound notebook and use it to take notes of conversations on the phone or in person with attorneys and financial experts. Be sure to list any important dates like deadlines for document submissions. You will be thankful that your careful divorce preparation and planning is not sitting on lots of sticky notes.
Lastly: Sit in as an observer with the judge who has been assigned to your case. Notice the judge’s demeanor, what questions they ask and observe what the courtroom procedure is like. Unless you have done this before, you probably have no idea how it works and should be prepared for whatever awaits you in your own trial. Ignorance is not bliss in this instance.
Joyce Pearson is a Woodland Hills attorney in Los Angeles, a member of the State Bar of California and a member of the California State Board of Accountancy. Visit her website at www.joycepearson.com