You can never be sure. You can only be reasonably sure. As you go through your divorce process, you are entitled to obtain the information you and your divorce lawyer need to make informed decisions about divorce settlement. Whether you receive complete information is a function of many factors, including your knowledge of family finances, the knowledge and experience of your family law attorney, and the candor of your spouse. Your willingness to litigate, if necessary, may also contribute to your spouse’s willingness to cooperate.
Once you have gathered as much information as you can, it must be evaluated with a view toward New Jersey divorce law. Your divorce lawyer will help provide you with the reasonable parameters of a divorce settlement. You are then ready to engage in negotiations with your spouse and his/her family law attorney. In the give and take of compromise, you must always keep in mind what is most important to you and be willing to give in on secondary issues to achieve your highest priorities.
It is unrealistic for any divorce litigant to expect to obtain everything he/she wants. A good divorce settlement is one that both parties can live with that is accomplished in the shortest amount of time and at the least expense. As you can imagine, this is a very difficult balancing act.
Be reasonable, respect your spouse’s perspective (even if you hate him/her), and follow the legal advice of the divorce professionals you hire. Only then will you be assured of a divorce settlement you can live with without regret.
About the author of this New Jersey Divorce FAQ:
Peter Paras is a New Jersey divorce lawyer and name partner in the family law firm of Paras, Apy & Reiss, P.C. in Red Bank, NJ. He is also a past member of Divorce Magazine’s Advisory Board.