Every divorce is an end of an era and the beginning of a new one. The best way to commemorate this transformation is with the actual remodeling of your living space. This new remodeling will mark the transition of your home becoming your own personal space.
By eliminating some elements that remind you of your ex, getting over them will be much easier, and if you’ve already gotten over them, look at this project as erasing some unnecessary remnants of your past.
Now, there’s not a single reason out there why you shouldn’t enjoy this process, and here are several tips to ensure that this is the case.
Enjoying the Benefits of Post-Divorce Home Renovations
1. Start donating
While throwing things in the trash may feel somewhat satisfying, it’s definitely not the best management of resources. Just because you don’t need them, it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be useful to someone else. So, start making some considerations on whether you could donate the item in question to a charity or a non-profit organization.
There are so many items that you could donate, such as first-aid items, pads, and tampons, underwear and socks, spices, blankets, etc. Throwing out or destroying assets is petty and childish, especially if these items could make a difference to someone in need. Be a better, bigger person and donate.
2. Spend more time outdoors
The absolutely worst thing that you can do in this scenario is to shut yourself in your home. You need some fresh air and you need to spend some time outdoors. Before this can take place, however, you need to prepare your backyard area for this daunting task.
Constructing a deck or just paving a seating area might be the first thing you want to do. Once you’re done with this, the next task on your list will be furnishing the place. For those who really intend to spend time out there, going for a high-end option such as outdoor teak furniture is definitely a solid idea.
3. Do it yourself
Sometimes, a divorce is accompanied by a lack of self-confidence, which is the issue that can sometimes be resolved (at least partially) through a simple DIY process. Remind yourself of all that you can do on your own, without having to rely on others.
Of course, we’re not suggesting that you should turn to complete seclusion, but relying more and more on yourself can be a great idea for your fresh start. Look at it this way, the more you rely on people, the bigger the gap you’ll feel once they’re gone. By putting some faith in yourself, this is never going to happen.
4. Do something big
Just moving furniture around won’t do the trick and for such a big change, you need to do something big with your remodeling. Of course, we’re not suggesting that you tear the place down and build a new place on its ruins, even though this wouldn’t be the worst of ideas if you can afford it; nonetheless, you should do something that matters.
Change the purpose of a room, replace a major furniture piece or completely change the layout of the room. This will not only change the way you see the place but the way you use it, as well. The choice is all yours.
5. You don’t have to rush it
Even though the title is suggesting that this is a post-divorce renovation project, you don’t have to perform it immediately after. There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you’ve done your budgeting, gathered enough funds and talked to an architect or an interior designer.
Other than this, choosing the right season for some of these works may be a mandatory move, especially in a scenario where you’re doing some of the works outdoors. All in all, take your time to make your plans, this really isn’t a decision that you have to make right away.
As you can see, there’s so much for you to do and the more you get done, the better effect it will have, both on your home and on you as a person. Growing emotionally is a process that requires continuous effort. The sooner you start, the better the end result will be.