After 18 years of marriage, I have no choice but to divorce my husband. In the last couple of years, I have discovered that he uses cocaine frequently, owes over $30,000 on various credit cards, owes the IRS over $120,000, carries a recent photo of himself and another woman in his wallet, and many more disturbing revelations. Our two sons (ages 14 and 16) are very upset about the divorce, and have accused me of ruining their family life. I’ve haven’t told them all the details because I don’t want to ruin their relationship with their father, but I don’t want to take all the blame for this either. They’re so angry neither of them is even speaking to me right now. What should I tell them?
My wife left me without warning two months ago, taking our four children (ages 2-15) with her. I don’t know where she has gone, and the only news I’ve had was from her lawyer, who says she wants a divorce and that I’ll only get to see my children one hour a week. I have no idea why she left, or what she has told the kids. I am a devout Christian, and I am devastated by this. I don’t want to lose my marriage or my kids, but what can I do if she won’t even talk to me?
My husband left me a couple of months ago and has now filed for divorce. I work as a teacher and will have a very good pension when I retire in 10 years, and my husband owns his own advertising agency; we never had kids. I know that businessmen can hide assets, and if he does a good enough job of turning profits into “losses”, I may have to give up half my pension to my husband. Do you have any insights on how to find hidden assets? Is there some kind of professional who specializes in this field?
I’m 28 years old and facing a tough, painful divorce. My four-year-old daughter adores her dad — and I really still love my husband, too, but he walked out a couple of months ago. I’m very depressed, and don’t know what to do. Can you recommend a book or article for me to read? Do you have any advice for how I can get over him — and help my daughter through this, too?