I’ve been divorced for one year after five years of marriage. My husband gave me nothing in the settlement; everything was in his mother’s name. A good friend helped me through this tough time — emotionally as well as financially. Now he’s asked me to marry him. He has great values, really loves me, and is totally unlike my ex. But still, I have panic attacks when I think of marrying him. I don’t want to marry anyone right now — maybe never again. What is wrong with me?
My wife and I have been married for 15 years. I had an affair, which I deeply regret, and she filed for divorce. She told me that the divorce would be symbolic so she could get closure on our bad marriage, then we would get married again and start a brand-new relationship together. We have been separated for a couple of months now, and I just found out she’s dated and slept with at least six other men since we separated. I am selling my soul to make our “new” relationship work — am I being a fool? Or is she just trying to get back at me for my one affair and will be faithful once we remarry?
I was married for 40 years, and we’ve been separated for four years now. He said he left me because I went into business with people he didn’t approve of, but I just found out the real reason: he had (and still has) a girlfriend. I still love him and want him back, so this news breaks my heart. We still see each other a lot, and have been on good terms, but I don’t know what to do now. Please help.
Dear In Love,
I have been divorced for six months after a 12-year marriage, which was in trouble for a while before we broke up. My ex-husband chose his career over his relationship with me, and he refused to go to counseling with me. I have started seeing a wonderful man who treats me very well, and he wants to get married. I still feel confused by what happened in my marriage, and that I need to find out who I am now before I commit again. What should I do?