My husband of 32 years has left me for a woman half his age. My heart is broken: financially, I am OK, but I’m a wreck emotionally. I want to stop crying and move on with my life, but it’s very hard. How can I go on when everything that matters to me is gone? How can I make the pain go away? Please help me.
It took me approximately one year to get to this third stage and to start really living my life again. I decided to put my divorce behind me; after all, it was in the past, and there was nothing I could do to change the past. But surely there was something I could do about the future, and that was to decide what I wanted my life to be like and to take steps to make it a reality. Some women, unfortunately, remain in the hurt or angry stages forever, ruining their lives and becoming very bitter. Your ex doesn’t care if you’re hurt or angry: he is living and enjoying his life and you should do likewise. Take time for yourself: get in shape, buy some new clothes, and get a makeover. Go out with friends, and maybe start to date again. The best is yet to come!
My ex-husband and I share child custody of our two young daughters (ages two and five). He has them every other weekend, and he brings his new girlfriend along on all their outings. I suspect she stays over at his house, too, but I don’t know this for sure. I have asked him not to involve her with our kids so much, but he won’t agree. My feelings aside, don’t you think he should spend a little time with his kids without her being there? What is your opinion?
Dear Worried Mom,
I’ve been divorced for one year after five years of marriage. My husband gave me nothing in the settlement; everything was in his mother’s name. A good friend helped me through this tough time — emotionally as well as financially. Now he’s asked me to marry him. He has great values, really loves me, and is totally unlike my ex. But still, I have panic attacks when I think of marrying him. I don’t want to marry anyone right now — maybe never again. What is wrong with me?
I was married for 40 years, and we’ve been separated for four years now. He said he left me because I went into business with people he didn’t approve of, but I just found out the real reason: he had (and still has) a girlfriend. I still love him and want him back, so this news breaks my heart. We still see each other a lot, and have been on good terms, but I don’t know what to do now. Please help.
Dear In Love,