The thrill may be gone from your marriage (hence the divorce), but that is no reason to avoid appreciating yourself on one of the most romantic holidays of the year – Valentine’s Day! In fact, since a healthy divorce is always better than a toxic or loveless marriage, this might be the perfect way to celebrate being single and enjoy Valentine’s Day to the fullest. Remember, getting a divorce is about you recognizing that you deserve something more fulfilling, rewarding, and joy-inspiring. A divorce is not a failure, as many people see it. It’s saying yes to new opportunities, new beginnings, and building a relationship in which you will thrive – even if that relationship is one with yourself.
For some, that means booking a table at a fancy restaurant for you and a sirloin steak, for others, it may mean taking out a bunch of friends to a bar to enjoy some laughs and take memorable selfies. Of course, if all you need is a bottle of wine and some good music while you read your favorite book, no one’s here to judge. However, if you’d like to bring out the big guns and have a blast this February the 14th, we have a few suggestions in mind.
Here Are a Few Ways to Enjoy Valentine’s Day This Year
Splurge On a Spa Day
After a divorce, messy or not, self-care is often the first to suffer and get neglected. This is your chance to restore your healthy habits by spending a day pampering yourself back to your prime. This might mean a long-overdue professional massage, a date with the sauna, or something entirely different – take your pick, just use the day to splurge on yourself and indulge.
Pleasure For One
Even though you might not be in the mood for a one-night stand now that you’re fresh out of a marriage, this shouldn’t prevent you from ensuring pleasure for yourself. Maybe this is a perfect chance for you to explore your sexuality, discover new ways to pleasure yourself, and enjoy your own body. With that in mind, why not get something for yourself that will spice up your first Valentine’s Day on your own? Alone time doesn’t have to be lonely or dull at all, especially if you use your imagination and feel free to enjoy yourself!
Head to a Singles Bar
Perhaps your divorce has been a long time coming, and whether or not it’s fresh on paper, you may feel as if you and your partner grew apart a long time ago. In such situations, you might even be ready to use this Valentine’s Day as a way to see if there’s a romantic spark out there for a new relationship. This holiday is perfect for heading for a singles night out when you’re ready to meet new people. You can use digital dating apps, visit local bars, or simply look for organized dating events in your area that sound interesting enough for you to visit.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong about making this year’s February 14th about yourself, and yourself only. However, if you’d like to give this day an entirely different purpose, you can spend it by volunteering in your community, be it in a homeless shelter, a home for the elderly, cleaning up a nature reserve, or with any other local organization.
Organize a Weekend Getaway
Why not enjoy Valentine’s Day by going on a relaxing weekend getaway? Since February 14th is on a Friday this year, you can actually extend your Valentine’s Day into a Valentine’s weekend and finally visit a new destination you’ve never seen before. Depending on your budget, you can go to an exotic getaway for one, or simply rent out a mountain cabin to hike, enjoy some fresh air, and just spend some quality alone time. If you have kids, taking them for such an adventure could be a great way to reconnect after a divorce and make some fond new memories together.
Spend Time With Your Loved Ones
Different holidays call for different measures, and you can certainly choose to spend this one alone, but you can also give it a different vibe: spend it with the people you care about, despite the separation from your spouse. The fact that you’re no longer married does not mean you don’t have a family. With that in mind, you can invite them over for dinner, take your siblings out for a movie, or simply grab a cup of coffee and connect. It doesn’t have to be fancy to be meaningful.
Organize a Get-Together At Home
Not everyone is crazy about Valentine’s Day in its most romantic form. As a result, there are people who will happily spend the day with friends over a home-cooked meal or a movie marathon, depending on what you’re in the mood for. You can even turn it into a full-blown party if you’re up for hosting more people.
From a party where you’ll be surrounded by friends and family, all the way to doing some good in your community, there are so many ways in which you can enjoy Valentine’s Day and make it more meaningful this year. Add these to your list of possibilities, and enjoy the new chapter of your life to the fullest, even if you’re not in the mood for a brand-new romance!
Lilly Miller is a Sydney-based graphic designer and a passionate writer. She loves everything about home decor, art history, and baking. She shares a home with two loving dogs and a gecko named Rodney.