As they approached the holiday season, two women commiserated about their lives. “You know what we need?” Liz announced to her sister-in-law Maren. Both women had their stressors. “We need a girl’s night. Why don’t you—just you—come out to the shore, spend the weekend? We’ll shop in St. Michaels, a dog-friendly town.” Liz took her […]
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I’ve done much research and writing on the topic of hiding anger. I’ve found that when you’re dealing with difficult people, perhaps you’ve actually collected these characters into your life because you haven’t been assertive enough. In other words, you have become a people pleaser. It’s especially difficult during the holidays season. Be determined to […]
Holidays are stressful times with six weeks of excess, taxed budgets, and too much to do. If you’re separated or divorced, be careful of setting completely unrealistic expectations. These tips below have been excerpted from Surviving Separation and Divorce by Loriann Oberlin, MS. Your tree isn’t the only item that needs to be trimmed when you’re […]
Based upon my own journey through divorce, book research and work as a therapist, I say with certainty that those who are separated often crave validation and companionship to stave off loneliness. They often desire affection – especially after cold marriages without it – and sometimes, they desire just that…desire. These feelings are completely normal, but what […]
Halloween aside, getting separated can be scary. Learning how to handle your divorce fears is an important part of having a promising and healthy future.
Years before I was a licensed counselor, I wrote non-fiction books. A few landed on the bookstore’s self-help, parenting, or psychology shelves. Devouring such books led me to both of my careers, and when I meet with clients who feel stuck, I sometimes recommend reading, and other self-help measures. I’ve gained a better understanding of […]
Many who are separated or divorced consider their ex to be pesky at one time or another. After all, you no longer live together presumably because you have two different world views and/or tensions have crept into your working relationship. An isolated disagreement or a harsh word between the two of you does not qualify […]