In this short video, Divorce Coach Karen McMahon speaks to single moms about the challenging job they wake up to every day. She offers her three best tips for helping your children – and yourself – through the divorce process.
The treasures that you’ll receive from using these three tips is that you and your kids will emerge from the experience in the best possible shape – plus you’ll have laid the foundation for a great relationship with your children as they move from child to adolescent to adult.
Three Tips for Helping Children – and Single Moms – Through Divorce
1. Ask yourself: “How important is it?” when you get triggered by a situation or something your ex-spouse or child says. Pick and choose your battles, notice your triggers and bite your tongue more often than not.
2. Don’t assume that your “good kid” is okay. Your straight-A student may need as much help coping with your divorce as the kid who is acting out. Check in with all your children and make sure their needs are being met.
3. It is impossible to pour from an empty container. Take care of yourself – even if your ex or your kids suggest that you’re being selfish. Make sure you’re high enough up on your priority list that your reserves are replenished; only then will you be able to “pour” your love and support into your children.
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