Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse can bring many challenges. Learn the eight ways to deal with a narcissistic ex when there are children involved.
Narcissists and Divorce
You read that right. You may be divorced for five, 10, or more years. Yet the end of a marriage means very little to a narcissistic (or borderline) ex. The personality-disordered ex has certain personality traits that make it impossible for them to empathize or relate to the other parent without anger or blame. For […]
During divorce when emotions are careening out of control, one spouse often believes that the other party may be hiding assets. In 2011, The National Endowment for Financial Education (NEFE) released a study finding that 31% of people who combined finances with their significant other have been deceptive with their spouse/partner about money. Of those […]
I had many reasons for our divorce. Infidelity wasn’t one of them until, suddenly, it was. The moment I found out is forever emblazoned in my mind. I didn’t catch them sleeping together. I didn’t find hidden love letters. Much less dramatic. I was in a car wash, and I got a call from her. […]
Here’s a blinding flash of the obvious: People are going to annoy you over the holidays – more than any other time of the year. But you know that. Why bring it up? Because if you’re in the midst of a divorce, your mental health may be teetering on the edge of sanity during the […]
A narcissist strives to control their partner via constant criticism, impossible demands, and withholding love.
Mother’s Day isn’t the easiest holiday in the world. Many women around the world are anguished over wanting to be a mother, and the holiday reminds them of this. Some women have lost their children in family court while divorcing a narcissist, and again the day reminds them of this. Other women are stepmothers watching […]
There’s an old joke where one person, after talking excessively, stops and says to the other, “Well, enough about me, let’s talk about you. What do you think of me?” Am I like that? I do like to talk—I’m an extrovert and have been accused of dominating conversations. I do like to talk about myself—I’m […]
I talk with many individuals who are struggling with the decision to divorce. It can be downright difficult to decide what direction to take, especially for those who have been married for decades. There can be a host of circumstances in the relationship that cause difficulty in deciding how to proceed. Some feel guilty leaving […]
One question I ask all of my divorcing clients is this: “If you could wave a magic wand and change anything about your situation right now, what would it be?” The most common response I get is, “I would make my partner disappear.” Wishful thinking, I know, but this answer says a lot about how […]