When dating it should be standard practice that any new person brings their best self forward on the first date. However, on the second, third, and fourth dates it’s likely that some of their more undesirable qualities begin to surface. Maybe he apologizes because he forgot his wallet, tells you he’ll pay you back, and asks you to foot the bill. Is he critical of your appearance? Does he suggest you would look better in another style of clothing? Asks if you’ve thought of wearing your hair up or down, growing it long, or cutting it short. Does he get irate in slow traffic? There could be a gentle or not so gentle shove. One isolated incident doesn’t necessarily mean this person is abusive, but if you hear unsettling comments or his actions give you cause for concern, take heed.
Are you able to ask him questions? Some people feel it’s not polite to ask questions so hesitate. They feel it’s too aggressive but without questions it will be nearly impossible to get to know a new person. You won’t get to know anyone if you don’t ask them about their likes and dislikes. However,
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