The following is an excerpt from the book, Divorce: It’s All About Control—How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars, by renowned family law specialist, Stacy D. Phillips. In Chapter Four, Phillips helps the reader understand how those around him/her may be controlling their divorce. This excerpt is the second in a series of six from the “Who’s In Control—You or Them? chapter. Though you ex may overlap into more than one category, helping to define which “type” he or she fits within will, according to Phillips, aid you in better understanding and dealing with your ex and your control issues.. Ms. Phillips says:
Though there are many different types of behaviors ex’s may employ to wrestle for control, I have narrowed the field to an interesting few.
See if you can identify which ex type you have! Also, see if you can identify which ex type you are! Keep in mind, your ex may overlap into other sub-types. For instance, your ex may display characteristics of the Victim, yet be masterful at the Manipulator game. The goal for you is to stay in control without toppling your ex’s right to his or her own sense of control.
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