In an ongoing series of articles—excerpts from the book Divorce: It’s All About Control – How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars, by Stacy D. Phillips, certified family law specialist based in Los Angeles, California, Ms. Phillips has shared insight with us regarding the “Divorce Wars.” In this, the third in a series of six articles regarding “Who’s in Control – Your Them,” Phillips defines the different “types” of controlling children and how they control, manipulate or manage their parents during the divorce process. If you’re a parent see if your children fit into any of the following categories.
Children are often casualties of the Divorce Wars, but then again, they can actually manipulate or even instigate them! I have seen more second, third and fourth marriages break up because of conflicts with, or over, the children. Their power can be nuclear!
I have listed a few varieties of child types to see if you can identify where your offspring or your stepchildren rank, and also to get you in better touch with who it is that is in control, you or your child.
While I realize that most children will easily dart back and forth between several of these category types, or overlap, most display predominant characteristics of one of the types. Also, when there is more than one child, there can be just as many types among them.
Read the other articles in this series:
Divorce Magazine profile here.