Collaborative law is a powerful and effective way for people who are divorcing to reach fair solutions and resolve differences, using highly trained and skilled professionals, while avoiding the cost and uncertainties of litigation. Collaborative family law is about achieving a fair and equitable settlement and assessing and accomplishing the thoughtful restructuring of the family.
The collaborative family-law process is progressive because it allows couples to obtain the positive advantages of legal, financial, psychological, and personal assistance in sorting out the complexities of their divorce, while at the same time focusing on issue resolution and family growth while completely avoiding the harmful disadvantages of the adversarial litigation process.
Only collaborative law addresses the whole picture that is involved in divorce. It recognizes that divorce is more than a legal procedure or event. It is also a time of intense distress and proves to be challenging for the parties and particularly for the children. Many financial issues are involved, and often, they are complex. Because it does address the whole picture, the collaborative-law process helps parties achieve a more complete, enriching, and long-term resolution.
In this process, parents and children tend to suffer fewer traumas, heal faster, and have better relationships with each other after the divorce. Additionally, children are protected from the most devastating aspects of a family break-up.
People can use the collaborative family-law process to resolve their entire matter, including child-custody and visitation issues, property division, and support. Post-divorce issues, such as adjustment of time with children or adjustment of support, can also be resolved with collaborative law.
How Does It Work?
A series of multi-party meetings is scheduled to systematically identify and examine the issues, explore options, and work toward an agreement that satisfies both parties. An agenda is set for each meeting in advance, so that everyone is clear on what issues will be discussed during any given meeting. Attorneys can meet with their clients to prepare for each meeting.
A problem-solving approach is always used. Collaborative divorce attorneys are trained in interest-based negotiation, and they help the parties to work productively to find agreements that meet the real interests of both. This type of negotiation allows both sides to win (“win-win” negotiation as opposed to the “win-lose” litigation model).
The collaborative family-law process is voluntary, and both parties must agree to participate and continue working together until resolution is achieved. This means that each participant has a stake in being fair and cooperative, because uncooperative behavior will cause the process to terminate and force the parties back to the litigation model.
If the process does terminate, the parties continue to have all of their rights and remedies under the law. The collaborative attorneys will withdraw, and the parties can proceed to hire counsel to take the case to court and have their matters be decided by a judge.
What are the differences between litigation, mediation and collaborative divorce?
This model is antiquated and burdened with heavily congested calendars and closings of courtrooms due to budgetary consideration.
The traditional mediation model has a number of advantages over the litigation model; however, the dialogue is once again restricted. Divorcing parties talk with a mediator and then may choose to consult separately with a lawyer who was not part of the original dialogue that led to issue resolution. There is a potential for breakdown at this point, due to the lack of depth of understanding.
The collaborative model can contain various participants; much like an “open container” within which the parties, their lawyers, coaches, and other professionals are all part of the dialogue and exchange of ideas. All of the professionals in the collaborative container have access to all efforts to identify and resolve issues in a more open forum, which makes it more difficult for one participant to pursue a hidden agenda. The collaborative process is the “cutting edge” — designed to make the most out of an admittedly bad situation.
What About Costs?
Costs will vary depending upon the difficulty of the matter, but one thing is certain: no funds will be spent on waging war. In collaborative family law, parties are assured of getting the assistance they need to succeed, while avoiding costs associated with unproductive fighting. The dollars spent on the collaborative process are a wise investment in a better future for the parties and for their children.
Southern California divorce attorney Brian Don Levy has practiced divorce law since 1973. He has regularly served as a Judge Pro Tem and as an approved Family Law and Civil Litigation Mediator and Arbitrator since 1978. View his website.